shotgun.

what do we impose upon the other person in the relationship when we meet/mate?

we tell them our deepest darkest secrets. we expect them to keep them regardless if they are actually trustworthy people.

we expect for them to understand, and be great listeners when in reality they may be mostly apathetic cold people. we expect this because we expect perfection, no we demand perfection out of our mate.
But we must understand they simply may not be built like that.not all boyfriends need to listen.. not all girlfriends need to have great conversation.
i can dominate a conversation so i dont even need someone who likes talk in a realtionshi
i want someone who has flaws where i have strength,
and compensates for mine, (weaknesses)

My Girl is not the best giver, lol she doesn't really partake in the surprise presents and the middle school anniversaries..

Thats cool tho..
because i THINK THAT SHIT IS CORNY..
SEE strengths / weaknesses

but in the end we still do come up short..
i want my girlfriend to now that i do think about how hard it is for her to be doing what se is doing right now but, i do care about myself also and people get so wrapped up in being selfless that they forget to allow their partner to be selfish. in fact you should allow them to vent as much as you want.. vent back share your consciousness because in fact when you put all of those things to together you each appreciate the fact that each person is going through it and you will feel much more secure with them.. you know they are just as confused as you .. and in a weird way it's reassuring

you gotta let that shit go. man
it's so hard but when you mad at them you gotta look at the big picture take a look at where this car is going .. and if you dont like the destination.. jump out.